Gunilla Thor-Finch
Counsellor Dip H.I.C. MBACP (Accred.)

Sustaining Love after falling in love

A course for couples who want to deepen their relationship

"Potentially life changing. Amazingly ambitious and daring. Something I wish I could have done 30 years ago. The course significantly exceeded my expectations or belief of what could be achieved in the time. Incredibly good value for money. Thank you Gunilla!"
was Martin's comment at the end of the course in March 2008.
For more comments see below.

I created this structured course because I am passionate about relationships working well. I have used all my considerable experience from years of teaching in different countries, experiencing the many different ways people manage relationships, my long experience as an individual and couples counsellor as well as personal experience from the ups and downs of a long marriage.

In my work as a couples counsellor I have seen so many people in unhappy relationships, with some resulting in relationship break up. So often I have felt frustrated that some of this could have been prevented if the people involved had had more understanding of what went wrong and why, before it had gone too far. That gave me the idea about creating this course.

By doing the course, you will be supported in building a relationship based on mutual respect and an equal balance of power. The course provides tools to help deal with dangers in relationships that can not easily be seen. It involves concern for and sensitivity to each other’s feelings and needs, as well as an appreciation of the things that make each partner so special.


It’s about making love last.



‘We need to know not only about love and affection and sensuality and sex and passion, but also about how to deal with anger and pain and jealousy and fear and excitement and joy. How to deal with differences in a way that build rather than destroy. We need to understand our own history, our past hurts, the scars we bear and the grudges we hold from far back that still influence us today. We need to look at how our parents have influenced us in various ways, some better than others. We need to learn to listen to each other.’

The course is designed to create a safe place for you both to explore ways to sustain and deepen the love you feel for each other.

The main theme right through is about improving communication skills and learning to genuinely listen to each other’s point of view.

Some of the issues we look at are

• How your parents and earlier lives have impacted on your relationship
• Difficult issues such as intimacy, conflict, jealousy, power struggles
  and anger
• Money and its affect in the relationship
• Domestic roles
• Children/stepchildren

The aim is for you to feel safe to be open and honest with each other. In doing so, you can deal with your differences in a caring and constructive way.

What people have said about the course

"I learnt so much about myself, my past relationships and current one. I now feel that I have a far greater ability to create the relationship I truly want." Adrian

The course offers so much more than it said it would - it allows me to leave the past behind and look forward to today and tomorrow without fear. It cleanses the mind and soul - allowing it to refuel on new ideas, love and infinite possibilities." Jill

"Most of all I appreciate the gift of being able to focus on nurturing and growing our relationship when most of the time is spent on so many external influences - from children to work. I now feel we have so many more tools and reference points for if things go wrong between us." Carrie